Episode 014 · Out now

Fatherhood as operations.

A weekly podcast on presence, responsibility, play, and the conversations men weren't taught to have.

Listen on Apple Spotify YouTube
014Episodes
52 minAverage runtime
WeeklyNew every Tuesday
2 hosts1 ongoing conversation
What we do

Real talk for the men still showing up.

Daddy Ops is a weekly conversation for dads doing the work. Figuring out how to be present, how to communicate, how to keep the play in it, how to stay curious instead of clenched.

We talk about the stuff our fathers couldn't — in the language men actually use. No gurus. No scripts. No life-coach voice.

Just two friends starting a dialogue on fatherhood, comparing notes on a craft nobody handed us a manual for.

The pillars

Four operating principles.

01

Presence

Showing up isn't a metaphor. It's the work — the boring, daily, on-the-floor-with-Legos work.

02

Curiosity

Stay a student. Of your kids, your partner, yourself. Certainty is where dads go to disappear.

03

Responsibility

Carrying the weight without becoming the weight. The difference is everything.

04

Play

If they're not laughing with you, you're missing the point. Fun is part of the assignment.

Who we are

For dads. On a mission.

Hank's the dad in the field. Mileen's the friend asking the questions worth answering. They've been having this conversation for years over coffee, beers, and the occasional 4 a.m. text. The podcast is what happens when you press record.

H

Hank Lutz

Co-host · Dad of [N]

[Two-to-three line bio. What Hank brings to the show — his angle, his background, the lens he sees through. Lives in [city].]

M

Mileen Patel

Co-host · Dad of [N]

[Two-to-three line bio. What Mileen brings — his angle, his background, why he's at the table. Lives in [city].]

The episode in your inbox.

One email a week. Episode notes, the topic we couldn't fit on tape, and the question we want you sitting with.